Learn about discovering superflow via a mindset reset with meditation, mindset, and lifestyle mentor Emma Goldie in this episode of the LMScast podcast hosted by Chris Badgett from LifterLMS. Chris met Emma on the internet, and then got on a call and wanted to share her message and program with online course creators like you.
Emma started meditation when she was 13 years old and has been teaching it intensively for 10 years. She realized that most people don’t have time to meditate properly, and it is something that takes a while to get really deep, profound results. Emma teaches meditation called non-invasive meridian therapy. It uses the meridian points to help release the past imprints which could be traumas or even thoughts or decisions that we made when we were young and because we couldn’t handle our decisions in a complex situation.
One big part of meditation for entrepreneurs is around vision. When meditating, we tend to look into the future. And the challenge for entrepreneurs is to bring that future vision into actions in the present. That’s a rare skill to have, and about 5% of the population is wired in a way where they can do those really uncomfortable things, especially in the beginning when entrepreneurs are often misunderstood. Articulating and aligning your vision with steps that can be taken to achieve will help bring your business to another level when interacting with customers and your audience.
Meditation can also help with stress. Many people working online have a lot of their business life seeping into their personal life, and this can create a workaholic nature and make it easier to forget to have balance on a daily basis and take care of your body. Emma shares a concept called superflow, which is the state of being able to have a really clear intention that’s really fixed and taking aligned action.
To learn more about reaching a state of superflow in your work, check out Emma’s Reset Your Mindset Challenge. You can also find Emma on Facebook and Instagram @emmagoldiespiritualmentor. Keeping focus and taking aligned action is the key for building momentum. And once that momentum is contained, it has a life of its own.
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Episode Transcript
Chris Badgett:
You’ve come to the right place if you’re looking to create, launch, and scale a high value online training program. I’m your guide, Chris Badgett. I’m the co-founder of LifterLMS, the most powerful learning management system for WordPress. Stay to the end, I’ve got something special for you. Enjoy the show.
Hello, and welcome back to another episode of LMScast. My name’s Chris Badgett, and I’m joined by a special guest, Emma Goldie, she’s over at emmagoldie.com.
Chris Badgett:
She’s a meditation, mindset, and lifestyle mentor. I met Emma on the internet, and then we got on a call, and I was just enjoying interacting with you and your goal and wanting to help other people through your program. I was like, “This is such a cool story. We should get this on LMScast.” So welcome to the show. What is the Reset Your Mindset Challenge that you’re working on? Just tell us about that. Why is that what you do?
Emma Goldie:
Okay. I’ve had a lot of experience in meditation. I actually started when I was 13 and I’ve been teaching intensively for 10 years and I realized that most of the people, my clients don’t have time to meditate properly. And it does take a while to start getting really deep, profound results. I mean, you can get some easy tips that get good results, but what I found is the issues that people had that were blocking them in the mindset like imprints and stories and habits and behaviors, which were protective mechanisms were actually stopping them getting the meditation results.
Emma Goldie:
So I combined something called silent counseling, it’s a non meridian, sorry, non invasive meridian therapy. It’s a bit like touch for health kinesiology to use the meridian points to help release the past imprints, it could be traumas or even thoughts or decisions that we made when we were young that because we couldn’t necessarily handle the emotions in our mind during a complex situation. So it’s a bit long-winded, but it’s very simple because what you do is you use points breathing to reset the thought pattern, the imprint that you created, which was meant to protect you, essentially, it just keeps running.
Emma Goldie:
So you’re leaping around the same thought, the same issue, the same problem and however much you try with your will or try with force to do something different, it keeps showing up because it’s magnetized towards you, energetically because it’s in your electromagnetic system of the meridians. So yeah, it’s really cool. It is really like magic and I’ve had some amazing results and I thought this is really a cool time, there’s so many people who are looking more inward and needing to find a state of peace and there’s a lot of pressures and it’s just a really cool offer. It’s great. So it’s a five day experience, 10 minutes of meditation and reset techniques.
Emma Goldie:
Meditation is a couple of minutes at the end, but some people do really get into them and are using them every day, but the 10 minutes is enough when people are having really great results. So there’s a Facebook group and feel free to come join. And that’s on the website, emmagoldie.com, but I was super excited, Chris, to work with you and every time we’ve had a chat, it’s been a really open chat. We’ve ended up actually not talking about the [inaudible 00:03:35] at all. And I was so excited because I heard that you went to the Himalayas and you’ve gone to Alaska and I just wanted to find out a bit more about that from you as well because I also went to the Himalayas when I was 19, which was a crazy experience in Tibet, in India and it had a really profound impact on me that stayed with me. So I wanted to find out how that was for you.
Chris Badgett:
Yeah. I mean, I was just a little bit older, I think I was 20 or 21 when I went there. I went with something called the School for International Training and it was a small group, very much about living with families and stuff and just being out and doing independent study projects and whatnot. I was always drawn to the mountains and I was always drawn to really, the Eastern religion and specifically the Buddhist way of doing things or seeing the world.
Chris Badgett:
Even older stories like Siddhartha or getting into some of the Buddhist principles really helped me in my just figuring out how to be in the world. I’m kind of an extremist, I love mountains, I went to the tallest ones in the world. I love dogs, I ran sled dogs in Alaska where you can’t get more into dogs. I was really getting into Eastern religions. I love just the whole Tibetan, Buddhist culture and everything, and also a lot about Hinduism and whatnot that I just wanted to explore. So I’m kind of an explorer and that’s what I did in my twenties.
Emma Goldie:
Kind of mysticism side as well.
Chris Badgett:
Yeah, totally.
Emma Goldie:
So do you think, I mean, you are a really chill guy and I’m just wondering how you managed to create such a good business and have that balance. I mean, that’s something I’ve found really hard because I guess in my practice, I’ve been doing it a long time. I was in Tibet as well, 19, went on loads of pilgrimages and was living out in abandoned temples with Siddis both in India and Tibet. And I did find it really hard at that age to come back and integrate back into the world. But now, obviously I’ve got the balance and it took me quite a while to do that, but I’ve been doing intense retreats for 10 years.
Emma Goldie:
So a lot of my work is to help people integrate those values and often it’s just key principles and values, but it is also about the navigation of how you do your everyday life, because obviously if we’re getting up and meditating all day long, we’re sitting in a cave, we can’t contribute to society. And that’s what I found amazing about you because you are just so zen and it really comes across. And I say, “This guy just doesn’t feel like a course creates a type of guy.” But do you find that when people come to you, you’re ending up doing more mindset work and stuff with them?
Chris Badgett:
Yeah. At first, let me just say, I’m definitely not perfect and I have a lot of room for improvement. I am the same. If we met in person, I would probably come off the same. I’m actually an extreme introvert. So some people think because I make all these videos and stuff that I’m very outgoing, which I’m the opposite. And there’s a lot of areas where I do get stressed or whatever, but I’ve done a lot of work on myself over the years. I think dog training is actually an easier example, in the sense that I’ve trained a lot of sled dogs and I love working with dogs and working with dogs.
Chris Badgett:
I mean, a lot of people don’t have really deep experience training dogs, but they’re familiar with this TV show called the Dog Whisperer and the guy who does that, Cesar Millan, is always talking about, it’s not the dog, it’s the people that have the issue. So like, while you’re talking about, no, it’s not the course, it’s not the LMS software, we’ve got imposter syndrome, we’ve got an expert who’s internalized all this stuff and they forgot about beginner’s mind and they’re having a hard time. They have all this value trapped inside of them, but they were never trained in how to teach or whatever, there’s that blockade.
Emma Goldie:
It’s got to come out of their mind.
Chris Badgett:
They’re lonely because they’re misunderstood and maybe in their immediate network, I call them education entrepreneurs. They’re all over the place, but they’re very spread out and they’re often surrounded by people that don’t get them.
Emma Goldie:
Or don’t believe in them.
Chris Badgett:
Yeah, especially in the early days, it’s a startup and there’s not a lot to show for it in terms of money or this huge following or whatever.
Emma Goldie:
Before the momentum comes, I guess.
Chris Badgett:
Yeah. And I mean, the word entrepreneur comes from to undertake and what entrepreneurs do is they go into the future and they bring it back to the present and they make it happen and that’s a very rare thing. It’s a rare skill. I’ve heard in some studies that it’s like 5% of the population or something that are wired that way and it’s one of those things where it’s really uncomfortable, especially in the early days and it’s kind of misunderstood.
Chris Badgett:
I mean, I still get stressed out and stuff. I’ve just been a work in progress and been open to, “Okay, you’re being a workaholic, you need to take care of your body better, it’s not just about making money, there’s all this other balance you need around all these different things.” I mean, I’ve been into personal development longer than I’ve been into entrepreneurship and I think that’s what carries me through.
Emma Goldie:
Yeah. And that’s probably what people get from you a lot, and why they’re drawn to you and want to work with you because they get that personal touch because it’s like when we’re drawn to want to create something, it’s like an entrepreneur search where you want to jump and you want a jump and then you’re onto the next thing, onto the next thing and it’s like, as entrepreneurs, we have to figure out what our polarity is, which is what my Polarity Navigation is about. It’s finding out what attracts us and pulls us and what pushes us away. And we can also have the feminine and the masculine side.
Emma Goldie:
So for me, getting into superflow is being able to have a really clear intention that’s really fixed and taking aligned action, but in the space in between, that’s the kind of feminine space where you have to trust, let go, show the universe what you’re doing by the continued aligned action, then it goes, “Okay, I understand this.” And then it started sending you people, but it’s that space in between setting the intention and having taken the aligned action and not feeling like you’re the one that has to do it all the time, because when you hand it over and when you’re in the flow, it’s like, there’s nothing better than when you’re getting the calls in or actually putting your feet up and taking a rest back, it’s a really hard thing to do and I think self-care is quite a big element of what I help people with, because it’s really key to be able to open that gap of the ego.
Emma Goldie:
Basically the ego is meant to keep us safe. It will keep us safe if we’re getting too high and above ourselves, it will bring us down. If we’re getting too low, it will bring us up. But it’s like that primary is so narrow that it doesn’t let us expand and develop and as entrepreneurs, we’ve got to do that. So we step outside and then of course, we get all the push back from everyone else around us, whether it’s a family or community or people not getting asked or just thinking we’re crazy and it’s such, the entrepreneur is like a beast of its own and learning how to navigate also the inner and outer worlds, because we have our intentions, we have our thoughts and feelings, we have our vision, how do we make that manifest when the environment outside us just isn’t conducive? You know what I mean?
Chris Badgett:
Yeah. I mean, I’m super fascinated in this. I mean, tell us more about superflow and that interplay between the masculine and feminine energy, because I see a lot of burnout entrepreneurs, not just in education, but in tech and all kinds of other businesses where to me, it seems like it’s that masculine energy where it’s just like-
Emma Goldie:
Go, go, go, go, go-
Chris Badgett:
Go, go, go, to the point of burnout or really unhealthy habits.
Emma Goldie:
Yeah, it’s an interesting one because actually comments from The Creative Principle, which is quite a mystical philosophy, it comes from where creation happened initially, you’ve got the masculine and the feminine, so they split away from each other. You’ve got the law of repulsion and in that space is where the three gunas come in, the five elements. And it’s within that space, that creation happens. So you have involution, which is a thought which then is coated in mater, and then it pause and then evolution happens, it outbirths when it’s ready. So if people are trying to create something and evolve it and outbirth it at the wrong time, it’s just not going to happen.
Emma Goldie:
So as the entrepreneur, you want to keep moving, keep moving, keep moving. But that pause space is really, really important to allow the process of the creation to have its own natural flow and it’s almost like creating the conditions within that space that best serve you as a person to be able to be inspired, to get the job done, to be surrounded by the people who are going to help you to be in a state of positive magnetism, because if we’re trying all the time, trying and trying and trying and doing and doing and doing, we’re kind of actually pushing what we’re wanting away. It’s like desperately wanting something rather than being it.
Emma Goldie:
So it becomes a process of I am money or I am creation or I am the action, well, then I want it because if you’re wanting, you’re striving and striving and striving and it’s constant. So by stepping back and observing, you get into a space of being, which essentially creates all the conditions that are correct and right for those things to magnetize and outbirth. It’s a bit like planting a seed and expecting it to grow before it’s ready or putting too much water on or giving it too much sunlight or giving it the wrong conditions. At the end of the day, it’s going to evolve and grow into what it’s going to evolve and grow into and all we can do is create the conditions for that to take the aligned actions. I mean, it’s a little bit simplified planting a seed, but you get what I mean.
Chris Badgett:
Can you speak to the imposter syndrome part of it where… And I think what’s also around that is just being authentic or whatever, or maybe you have to show more of your true self to really step into what you’re going to do if you want to be a successful teacher or some kind of a healer.
Emma Goldie:
Yeah. I mean, you have to start living it. And that means we’ve all got imposter syndrome. And a lot of people listen to it, unfortunately, and can’t get over it, but the reset of your mindset element is when you were younger and something happened, I don’t know, your brother stole your toy and it got lost and it was your best thing ever and you believe that anything special is always going to get taken from you, for instance, it might be a really small incident, it doesn’t have to be a massive trauma, but that’s a decision that you make and ultimately everything magnetizes around you in that same way.
Emma Goldie:
So the impostor syndrome, I know it pertains to everybody, but it can also have certain edges which relate to things that happened when we were younger that make us feel like we’re not worth it, or we don’t deserve it, or we can never keep it anyway and by checking in, I use a system which helps, the biofeedback of the body. So you can actually check in what age something happened. Sometimes you need to know what it is, and sometimes you don’t, but generally you need to name what it is. But the fact that it’s called silent counseling means that you don’t have to sit and talk about it over and over and over and over again. I mean, the mind is already playing it over and over and over again anyway.
Emma Goldie:
So you just realize what it is plus press seven points on the meridian points and do a breath. And that literally releases it like that. So what I’m finding with my clients is, as we release things, they can propel so much quicker in their business results with money stories or with imposter syndrome or with feeling of unworthiness or even navigating them outside world. Often we project onto someone outside ourselves, or my husband’s really against me, he doesn’t want me to do this, or my sister keeps putting me down, but they’re just reflecting what’s going on inside. It’s a lot easier to blame it on someone outside, but when we do the internal work, things open and lift, because maybe we had a connection with our sister and that then releases, but we have to live into the experience of being that for it to happen.
Emma Goldie:
So when you’re creating the future, you can experience it through visualization, go through the sensations of it, through the thinking, the feeling, what am I going to be doing? The visualization is really powerful and also start living some things. I mean, obviously if you want to be a millionaire and you’re not, you can’t go out and do everything like a millionaire, but you can imagine those things and start feeling into how that is. So you can start being that person. How would you talk to people differently? It can be really small things. What would you [inaudible 00:17:51] for breakfast or would you be lying in?
Emma Goldie:
It’s like now, I used to have a really strong meditation practice, which was two in the morning, four or five hours a day. Really, really powerful. And I hit burnout, not from that, but from pushing, it was at the beginning of COVID and I was just pushing so much trying to develop things for online and figuring out what to do and not knowing which thing to have first and then you find out you need this, but then you need the funnel, then you need all these other packages and everything I seem to do, one step would lead to another 10. And I was like, “Oh, next week, I can launch. Next week I can launch.”
Emma Goldie:
And I realized there was so much in the background and part of that was partly to do with me as well, I was just pushing myself too hard. So now my schedule is really different and I, as well as doing quite a lot of work in America, which means I’m to bed later, but I don’t put my alarm on. I get up, I run a bath. I take a massive bowl of fruit and I might be in the bath for an hour, listening to trainings or podcasts, or just floating, meditating. Then I’ll get up, maybe start working around 10 or 11.
Emma Goldie:
And like six months ago, I just would never have done that. And even in my meditation, rather than the meditating, I still meditate in the afternoon, but I might dance in the morning, put some music on and dance or go for a walk or just mix it up a bit and do something different because we have to sit in a box, we sit at our desk, we have to work in this way. This morning, I had a three hour bath and I had my computer, I had my phone, I was journaling, listening. In fact, I listened to your walk, your happy birthday walk.
Chris Badgett:
Oh, my Facebook Live. Cool.
Emma Goldie:
Yeah, because it made me laugh because I always forget how old I am. I do remember my birthday, but I’m just like, “That’s really cool. That’s just so zen.” That was such a great post actually. I really enjoyed it.
Chris Badgett:
I appreciate that. I appreciate that. That’s one of my hacks a little bit is like self care kind of things. My morning walks is part of my mental health and I’m a huge environment guy, so getting out in the nature in the morning. I’ve just learned that if I start my day, you’re talking about the bath in the morning, dancing in the morning, the music, whatever, that works for me is to do self care early and then I get into my day and I’m much more grounded. I think a lot of people wake up, I shouldn’t say I think, I know a lot of people wake up and then the phone and then the email, and then there’s this cascade, where there’s just no self care, very little, how does somebody break the cycle?
Emma Goldie:
Yeah, it’s almost like a panic. I think, because we’re all on fight or flight so much. If you’re doing well as an entrepreneur, you’re waiting for something to go wrong, because we’re always pushing boundaries, we’re always changing things, things are always going to be evolving. And actually when we’re comfortable, we need to jump for something else.
Chris Badgett:
Right.
Emma Goldie:
There has to be that space that we give to be able to expand. Again, it comes back to the yoga principle of expansion and contraction. There’s a natural breath and I love expanding, I’m just that type of person. So for me to sit and meditate, I mean, obviously I really had to focus hard to do it, but it was really, really hard because literally every single cell in my body was screaming, just get up, just me, when I just wanted to do something. But when we realize there was a natural flow and expansion and contraction to an idea, or to a task or to a relationship or to a conversation, it’s like we can let go of that need to always be expanding.
Emma Goldie:
For some people it’s the opposite. For some people, they’re really, really contracting all the time, they’re much more detailed, focused, orientated. They just get so inside their heads or inside themselves and they can’t actually look up and just take a breath. So the Superflow state for me is kind of being an expansion as much as you can, but also when you’re in the contraction, you’re in a comfortable and almost luxurious space where you’re pausing. So you allow the pause and then it just kind of merges into a more unified state, I guess.
Chris Badgett:
Very cool.
Emma Goldie:
I mean, for me, it’s about finding a more unified and permanent state where you can be at peace in the zone, in the zen, whatever you want to call it. And when we start to have things working for us if we’re doing a project, it’s allowing that rest and that, yes, this is good. I can switch off, I can turn off, I can leave for two days and just forget my phone, forget my partner, forget everyone, but just grow and expand into nothingness. And it’s the expansive state, I guess. And the self care element is really, really key for that.
Emma Goldie:
And it feels like, I mean, when I come in and I put my feet up at 11 o’clock and I am having a bowl of fruit and my partner or someone in the house is like, “Oh, are you all right there?” I’m like, “Yeah, I’m good.” But it’s like, it’s judged from the outside. I do a lot of creation and writing and the inspiration comes when you were in an expanded state. And if we’re constantly trying to do, do, and fix, fix and manipulate, maybe there’s something bigger than us that’s going to have a hand in how all of these things that we’re calling in, all of our intention, again, aligned up for us in a better way than we could have organized ourselves.
Emma Goldie:
So that part is also about letting go and trusting a bit and the flow is really within the work is to find out which, there’s nine parts for the polarity and it’s to find out which parts? There’s polarity creation, time and space, structure, self care, mission, environment, and vision. And within each of those, there’s another three principles. So we basically, what we do is we test, I would test you and say, “Right, we want to work on your mission and your space.” And then within there, we nail it down to two more things and we figure out in your world or in your environment, or in your organization of your time or structure, what’s not working, but it’s very much related to what’s going on inside.
Emma Goldie:
So once we nail what those things are, clear the energy behind it, then it creates a whole new path. So what’s happening is, is people who are clearing these elements are suddenly having massive changes in their life because they just realize, hang on, this doesn’t fit me. Or it doesn’t actually fit for me to be always having the same conversation saying yes, yes, yes. Or I’ll do it for you or I’ll take care of you, whatever their habitual persona is. But that change is really difficult.
Emma Goldie:
It means us looking at ourself, it means everyone else around us being challenged because not only are we wanting to lift our ego limits bigger, it then challenges those because suddenly we’re not maybe doing everything we were doing for them before, or we’re matching to a different tune and I don’t know, jealous or inspired or whatever it is, but they can’t figure it out and that puts them into fear. A lot of it points in the coming out of this fight or flight or fear, which as animals or coming from the animal world we have. So it’s learning to manage with simple breathing techniques to release those, and then seeing what’s present for the day.
Chris Badgett:
Wow. How does these stories and trauma get trapped in the body? And I just want to say, something I observe in the education entrepreneurs is often, there’s two archetypes. One’s really focused on making money, and the other one is really focused on the impact or changing the world or healing this group of people, but there’s this healthy balance, if you can master both. I know that’s two questions in one, but I think they’re probably related.
Emma Goldie:
[inaudible 00:26:15] the first. To be honest, that’s something I am still mastering because I had a superfood business, which was really successful and it brought in over 100K a year. And I was able to just literally spend my time doing meditation all the time. I was working, we have a home soup kitchen, so I was sorting them out and we’ve got a retreat center, so I was just working, volunteering all the time, teaching.
Emma Goldie:
That was what I did over the last 10 years. And that was one of my stories from early on, when money came to me, it was always through loss, through family loss. So I have a big thing of guilt and shame around money. And that was one thing that I have been dealing with, which everyone has their own stories and the way they get locked in is you’ve got an electromagnetic system inside the body, do you know the meridian system?
Chris Badgett:
Yeah.
Emma Goldie:
Okay, cool. So it’s a bit like, say you have an injury, you pull one of your ankle muscles. Another one of the muscles then comes in stronger to help protect the other one, yeah?
Chris Badgett:
Mm-hmm (affirmative).
Emma Goldie:
And unless you’ve released that strong one, this one can’t strengthen up again. Does that make sense? It’s like a pair, it has a positive and negative balance within a joint here. And it’s the same, if you have a shock, then the body, the meridian system will protect because the emotion and the mind can’t correlate those two things together. So one part will overcompensate by becoming strong and that leaves the weakness in another area of the [inaudible 00:28:07] of the meridian system. So basically, it’s like a roadblock. So when you press the meridian points and do the breath in a certain way, it just helps to redirect the energy the right way through the meridian system.
Emma Goldie:
I mean, often when you’re doing it, you might be thinking of that thought or feeling, or you might be breathing in something positive to replace it. So normally you breathe in something positive to replace it and then release with the breath what the negative thing was. Sometimes people need to remember what it was, sometimes they don’t. I mean, sometimes it can even be ancestral, to be honest, is often down through our lineages, often our mom or dad or grandparents. It can be through illness like way back, if there was a limiting scenario, if there was an illness say polio, that would’ve created a limiting set of circumstances for the mindset of that family and it would have been really deep rooted.
Emma Goldie:
So it doesn’t have to be something that happened when we were young, it can be from before, or it can be environmental as well, an environmental impact on us too. Yeah, so you literally just help the meridians to reset with the breath and then they flow right. And then the next step would be to help that person to navigate, because obviously they’ve been thinking and feeling that way for such a long time. First you would put in a positive affirmation, give them that same exercise to do a little bit so that they can rebalance that. But actually the steps that my clients are taking are amazing and really quick, I’ve just been blown away.
Emma Goldie:
People are changing jobs really quickly, or things happening in their life or their partner’s just turning around 180 degrees because suddenly they just don’t see or feel that loaded pushback all the time, because they’re not coming in with that victim mentality or whatever the story is. Or the anger, often the anger isn’t anything to do with what the partner has done or what the colleague has done, it’s something else. So it’s like by releasing that initial thing suddenly, wow, there’s a lot more space. There’s a lot more energy, there’s space for inspiration to come in because if our body is in that fight or flight, we can’t create, we can’t inspire.
Emma Goldie:
And that’s why it’s also really important to have the self-care element for the entrepreneur who just doesn’t stop. If we’re in fight or flight all the time, we’re going to just hit the ceiling of what we can create, how the inspiration comes, what we attract to ourselves. There’s only so much force and willpower that we can use. If we get the universe on our side or our energy on our side and our field working well, and our thoughts creating in the correct way, then it’s just, back to that creation thing, we’ll just have the natural flow. It will have the natural cycles.
Emma Goldie:
And that’s also what we go into the natural cycle of creation. And then also there’s really other practical things like people’s mission, knowing step of the mission, getting the message, getting the mission dialed in of the customer. This is probably what you help people with because it’s when you’re entrepreneurs, they want to sell what they want to sell. This is how I am, this is what happened to me. I want someone to buy that, but that’s not necessarily what the buyer wants or what the client wants. So it’s finding out what their mission is.
Chris Badgett:
I want to dig into that, the Dharma or the mission, or somebody’s like, they’re feeling inspired, but there’s no North Star or they’re making it about them and like, I’m just going to sell myself online or whatever. How does somebody really get the download of the mission and that clarity of purpose?
Emma Goldie:
Well, I think as entrepreneurs or creators, I think for a long time, I was trying to get my mission out there and not listening to what might… Okay, so my clients might be able to relate to a bit of my story. I went off to India when I was 19, I had a crazy sick mom, before that she then died. I had a really intense experience in India and Asia, and I didn’t really find myself at home for a long time. So I didn’t really fit in society, I didn’t really have a family, always wanting to expand. So I didn’t really settle with many things. I’ve got a family and stuff, but I was constantly moving in different ways. When we have to dial in our own mission, it’s a different thing.
Emma Goldie:
I feel that that comes as a luxury later, once we have the momentum of the business, because if you’re wanting to start a business and you’ve got the mission of the client at the top, and then you’ve got the messaging, which is really, really consistent dialed in, then you’ve built the methodology. Then you get the movement, then you get the money, then you get the momentum, and that’s when the meaning comes. That’s when you’ve got the luxury of having your own meaning in there, because that whole flow is there for the client and they feel it and that’s when it becomes a seamless scalable offer.
Emma Goldie:
And then from there, it goes backwards for yourself. So then you get the luxury of your own meaning and it works bottom up, if that makes sense, back to the mission. So I feel by dialing in almost by removing ourselves, becoming the observer, I’ve got so much I want to teach to people and I actually had to put on the side a lot of my spiritual and philosophical teachings, because actually that’s not what people want to know. They want productivity, they want to know how they can get more money, work better, be more peaceful, not go home and scream at the wife, you know what I mean?
Chris Badgett:
Yeah.
Emma Goldie:
It’s like really practical things. So I’ve had to put, even though it underpins my system, that’s not what I’m teaching. I’m teaching what people need and what their mission is that they can get dialed in. They can have life changing results really quickly and in an integratable and navigatable way, because I think a lot of people also, when you talk about self-transformation or person development, they’re scared, they’re scared, “Well, what’s it going to be like? Am I going to be a different person? Am I going to change? Am I going to still love my husband? Am I going to still fit into my family? Am I going to want to leave everything and fly off to Bali?”
Emma Goldie:
Do you know what I mean? There’s a fear because it’s unknown, but actually it’s a much smoother integration of just releasing of the things that are holding us back and us expanding into more open space around us, without these mind blocks or habits or imprints. It’s almost like reprogramming the matrix, I guess. Of course, you can change everything if you want, but more often than not, it doesn’t mean that because people who end up taking more responsibility, they realize what their part is in that negative situation and wow, it gives a lot of freedom.
Chris Badgett:
What’s your take on, you’ve talked about the universe tapping in and then it can help you out and you visualize. In terms of, I don’t know what the right words are for it, but the way a vibe and then the type of people, whether that’s team members or clients that you attract, how does that interplay work when you have a good reset with others? The whole polarity thing with other people, how does it work?
Emma Goldie:
Yeah. I mean, if you look at environment, your environment can make a big impact on you and obviously people sorts of energy, especially if you’re sensitive. When you’re sensitive, you pick up people’s thoughts and feelings. And I think that was one of my early problems. I was so sensitive, I would always know what someone else was feeling. So then I would act accordingly, because I didn’t want them to be sad or upset or angry. And then I actually just morphed into what I thought people wanted me to be. And that was a lot of my kind of awakening.
Emma Goldie:
But if you’re talking about the standard, I don’t know, say Asian wife, who is living a life that she’s meant to live or any of us, we end up thinking that we should be this person. Obviously that’s a stereotypical thing, but suddenly there’s a feeling of, something’s not right here. I’m not aligned to my truth, I’m not connecting. And you feel like there’s something wrong with you. And actually everyone else ends up thinking there’s something wrong with you as well because they think, “Oh, she’s going mad.” Because suddenly she’s not running around bringing me tea or whatever it is all day long because it’s an evolution process. And as we make those changes in ourself, I think it’s important.
Emma Goldie:
That’s a really important time to have people around you who understand, whether it’s joining a community of people who understand the changing, it doesn’t have to be… This level of change happens for everybody in some way or another. For an extreme, it’s kind of like the [inaudible 00:37:33] of the soul and it’s probably what leads a lot of people to suicide or really intense depression is like a fear, a deep feeling of shame often that you’re not who you should be, and that’s projected on from the outside. But it’s also, we’ve had our interplay because we’ve been playing that game for so long, but I think it’s one of the hardest things is to navigate serving yourself after you’ve served others for so long.
Emma Goldie:
I think that’s one of the most difficult things I’ve done. I’ve done it a few times and it’s really profound, because you do just get a lot of pushback. As much as people love you and want the best for you, if they’re bought into you being the same way, because it’s convenient, it’s like resetting the habits, you got to reset the habits around you as well. And I guess you’ll find as you upgrade your vibe, you will find some people get jealous, some people can’t handle it, because basically they would need to change as well because you’ve opened your scope of being and for them to be in and around you, they would have to change to an extent. And it doesn’t mean you have to leave everyone in your life.
Emma Goldie:
I see a lot of this kind of spiritual bypassing thing where, leave anything that’s negative in your life. And actually most often, whatever’s happening on the outside is a reflection of inside. And I’ve had some amazing results with myself and with my clients to actually navigate those types of situations where, we feel like we’ve got to drop everything or leave everything. And of course, we have to be true to ourself and if someone’s not aligned, then they’re not aligned. But I think often people, if they’re going through this type of situation, they get in a gridlock and maybe they just drop it or walk away roo soon because they don’t have the tools to be able to navigate their change and the other person’s expectation. So it’s complicated, it’s complex, but it’s really doable.
Emma Goldie:
But it’s difficult on your own, especially, what I would say is, find a group, there’s loads of Facebook groups for loads of different stuff. Of course, you can come and join mine as well, that’s Reset Your Mindset, but you need support around you with people who’ve done that before, otherwise, you think you’re going mad, you think there’s something wrong with you and there’s not. And actually it’s an insult to the soul to not listen when there’s a calling and when you don’t listen, it can end up with you in really detrimental situations with people getting sick or relationships breaking up or broken families or even worse, if people self harm or go to addictions and all that stuff, it’s like, the expectation from the outside creates a deep shame when we can’t live up to what we feel we should be.
Emma Goldie:
Shame is probably the most complex and difficult of emotions, I would say. That’s the one that leads people to really drastic measures. I feel like it’s sad because it’s interesting even now, because I’m doing what’s opposed and I’m putting in about different openings and reset your mindset and everything. I mean, I don’t specifically deal with trauma, but essentially everything I do is about someone having had a trauma and making a decision, but even the word trauma, someone doesn’t like, if they’ve had trauma, they don’t want to acknowledge it. And if they haven’t had a big trauma and they certainly don’t want to acknowledge it. So even the language around, I guess, mental health and us managing our feelings and probably, especially for guys, I don’t know how you find, I was just wondering for you, do you find guys get attracted to you and talk to you more about those things because you’re an open kind of guy? I mean, you’re the kind of guy that probably should be around a bit more for most people.
Chris Badgett:
Yeah. I mean, I tend to attract people who want to not just have small talk, but really get into it and just be open-minded and even vulnerable, I guess, for a dude. And I think that-
Emma Goldie:
It’s a really special trait.
Chris Badgett:
Yeah, I appreciate that. I mean, I’m really conscious of the masculine and the feminine energy and having that not be about just man or woman thing, but just that interplay or whatever. And I always enjoy meeting people who can embody both and they’re comfortable with both. And it just feels more balanced and the whole picture and the one side’s not repressed or whatever.
Emma Goldie:
I think with the balance of the two, often the masculine doing, doing, doing, so just because we’re trying to overcome a feeling that we don’t want to feel inside, you know what I mean? And often even the feminine kind of floaty out there thing is because we’re scared to take action. So some of those, we’ve just got to do the work on ourselves, I guess, to get a balanced and to get it working well. And it’s really beautiful when it flows well, it’s really nice and it’s-
Chris Badgett:
Well, that’s the Superflow you’re talking about, right?
Emma Goldie:
Yeah. People call it Superflow and it is a feminine thing, but actually it’s held within the two masculine. You’ve got the thought, the intention and the aligned action. So it’s kind of like a polarity sandwich, I call it, because you’ve got the masculine on both sides and then you’ve got the feminine, that’s got the space, as a creative, as a woman. And you need that space to create.
Emma Goldie:
And that’s where the self care element and being in nature and finding what are the non-negotiables, for you, obviously that’s, you’re walking, you’re rushing off to the mountains, that people just so desperately need that and need to be okay with allowing themselves to take that. I had a couple of meetings this morning and I just needed to just be in the bath for three hours and it’s nothing I couldn’t reorganize. It was just some team stuff, but a part of me felt, “Oh, can I postpone it?” It’s just like, “This is just what you need, just listen. Just listen and do it.” And I was like, “Okay, cool. I’ve got to practice what I’m preaching.” You know what I mean?
Chris Badgett:
Yeah, totally. And on that note of the space, do you have any just tips about, I noticed people who, I would say education entrepreneurs, they consciously cultivate their workspace or whatever. It’s hard enough like you said, a lot of roads lead to 10 more roads and stuff like this, the space in which you go on this adventure, particularly in this case, in an online context where you’ve got to build a business, you got to teach, you got to build community, you got to use all this technology and everything, what advice do you have around cultivating a space to work in that’s like more of the physical part of it to nurture that Superflow?
Emma Goldie:
I mean, I guess part of it has to do with timetable, having some time where there’s not really fixed, fixed tasks because you can’t find Superflow if you’re boxed in on tasks. Yeah, you might have a diary where you know you need to do five things in the week, but sitting down and deciding, I’ve got to finish this on a Monday. If the inspiration is ready to drop about something else, and you’ve tied it up in a box and frustrated with the tech and going to get [inaudible 00:45:39] Facebook has done or whatever it is, it’s like, you’re not being open.
Emma Goldie:
So I would say, creating the physical space so that you feel that you can expand. So making it look nice, being somewhere near nature or somewhere you can walk, having nice things around you, almost creating a luxury workspace, I guess, where you can create your zone, create your zen and honoring that part of you. I mean, how many hours do you spend on the computer working? You need to honor that part of you and knowing what your natural flow rhythm is. I’m like, if I got 50 minutes where I can do really intense things and then it’s good for me to shift, so everybody will have a different time set within themselves like a body clock thing, where they will have that amount of time.
Emma Goldie:
And then it’s good to just make sure you have a break in between that because after that, you’re not going to be as effective. Having good breaks, ideally being with people who are like minded. I mean, we didn’t finish talking about the kind of magnetism of people and how they come in, but generally as you upgrade yourself, you will get attracted to the right people. You have to, I suppose, look for damage limitation if you’re changing a law and knowing that things might change around you. And I guess, quite task oriented, if you’re managing the measures of the team and how they’re meant to look or what they’re meant to do. And if something’s not fitting, just start having those conversations and seeing if you can reinvent now or if it’s going to work or maybe it’s just not going to work.
Emma Goldie:
You know what I mean? But I think being open about it, when you start to have an open conversation, you will find if someone’s open and reflective and going, “You know what, I feel a little better after that conversation. It really makes sense. Yeah, I need to take more time for myself or I need to look at what I’m bringing to the table.” There has to be that conversation in the first instance. And for some people, they just might think you’re a bit crazy. I live in a quiet earth.
Emma Goldie:
I live in an environment where a lot of people know what I’m like, but I guess if you’re living in a really normal work environment, that’s can be really hard, but then you might want to say like, “Hey, what are you doing? A couple of days, work from home? Or are you counting your days down or your hours, or you’re going in early before the team comes in.” So you can turn up at seven in the morning and get two-three hours done before anyone comes in. You’re kind of already way ahead, have a long break. It’s like, hearing what the soul needs, I guess. And for that, you just need to create some silence somewhere. You can’t get inspiration if you’re not silent.
Chris Badgett:
I love that. Emma Goldie, your Facebook group is called Reset Your Mindset, right?
Emma Goldie:
Yeah, Reset Your Mindset With Emma Goldie. There’s quite a few Reset Your Mindsets.
Chris Badgett:
And then what’s the best way or best website or way for the listener if you’re watching to connect with you?
Emma Goldie:
I would say sign up for the Reset Your Mindset challenge, join in the Facebook group. I’m Emma Goldie Coach. [inaudible 00:48:55] my business page on Facebook and Insta. I’m not too hot on Insta, but Facebook’s a bit better right now. I’m trying to just focus on one thing, building it and then exponentially shifting. It’s really hard for me to focus on one thing. It’s like, “Oh my God.” I no want to build my course, obviously I’m leading with the course, but I’m doing my one-to-one clients as well and it’s just like, slow down.
Emma Goldie:
I mean, some of the content obviously goes between the two, but yeah, keeping that focus is my thing, which I think is important. You need to be able to have that aligned, taking those aligned actions, otherwise, it’s just exponential and something has to be contained to be building the momentum. And then once it’s contained, it’s got a life of its own. You know what I mean? Anyway, sorry. Yeah, Emma Goldie Coach, or Reset Your Mindset With Emma Goldie. I’d love to connect with you and see. Yeah, it’s amazing the results. It’s a free group and the results have been awesome. As well, Chris, thank you so much.
Chris Badgett:
All right. Well, thanks for coming, Emma. And it’s great to be on the journey with you.
Emma Goldie:
Yeah, it’s awesome to connect.
Chris Badgett:
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